Happiness, Self-Esteem, Reference 

Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff is a manifesto for loving and being kind to oneself regardless of how successful (or not) one may be in life. Neff believes that the ubiquitous concept of self-esteem can hurt our chances at happiness because it forces us to judge ourselves based on our accomplishments, and we must fight constantly to put others down and keep our own heads above water if we’re to earn our own love. Instead, Neff proposes self-compassion – understanding and forgiving ourselves for our mistakes, accepting our own feelings, and looking at the world with clear-eyed mindfulness. In this book, Neff outlines the core tenets of self-compassion, describes the benefits of self-compassion, and explains how to practice self-compassion in the context of relationships with other people.